The Moment To Kiss A Girl And How To Avoid Rejection

Imagine the following: You’re out with a really beautiful girl you’ve been dating now for a few times. After having some drinks etc. you decide to get some fresh air. As you’re walking around with her you see a park bench where you sit down. You are both alone now. No one is here. It’s just you and her. It seems like the PERFECT MOMENT…

…the perfect moment to get all your guts together and make the BIG MOVE to finally kiss her. But you hesitate…

You’re not REALLY sure if you can kiss her and if she will like it…YOU’RE SCARED OF GETTING REJECTED. And the more you think about it the more scared and the more uncertain you become. What if she turns her head away, or pushes me away? What if she gets angry and don’t want to talk to me anymore? What if she doesn’t want to be friends anymore?

She might even tell her friends about it and you imagine how EMBARRASSING it would be for you when everyone is talking about you when you pass by. No one can believe that you really tried to kiss her and all the boys are busting on you because you messed up things.

Some really bad ideas here, right?

As it turns out, most men aren’t that much afraid of what’s happening IN THE MOMENT when they kiss a girl, rather then they are about THE CONSEQUENCES of this moment and what will happen in the future. The step you have to take as a man to kiss a girl is one of the MOST crucial steps where a lot of men are scared because it determines whether you’re getting intimate and maybe become lovers, whether you’re just staying friends or whether everything ends… forever.

So this article is not about how to kiss a girl, it’s about how to avoid getting rejected when you try to kiss a girl. So why do guys get rejected when they try to kiss a girl?

Mistake #1 – When trying to kiss a girl:

One reason is that they simply aren’t confident enough and don’t know how to attract women. They don’t have their guts together when the moment of truth comes and believe it or not… …but women can SENSE IT, when something like this happens.

They can FEEL IT and if something is unattractive to women then it’s an weak, insecure man who doesn’t know what to do.

Women want a strong man, who’s in control of the situation and who knows what he’s doing. They want to be overcome by the moment and the ONLY one who can make this happen are YOU.

Mistake #2 – When trying to kiss a girl:

Another reason why men get rejected when they try to kiss a girl is the fact that they haven’t created enough body contact before.

They haven’t touched the girl very often or even not at all and when they try to kiss her it’s kind of artificial, it’s hard to do and she will feel uncomfortable with it. It’s like the situation where you drive her home and right before she wants to get out of the car you put your arm around her and want to kiss her. In most cases you shoot yourself in the foot and she will reject you, get out of the car and in the best case wish you a good night and that’s it.

And you of course, will kick yourself.

Mistake #3 – When trying to kiss a girl:

Another big no-no is to try to kiss a girl that, in fact isn’t interested in you at all.

But why would you do such a thing?

I know how dumb this sounds, but it happens just too often, that a guy knows a girl he’s totally attracted to, but what he forgets is that she’s not attracted and interested in him. Anyway, they go for the kiss, which has some fatal consequences.

Mistake #4 – When trying to kiss a girl:

The last mistake I want to mention right here that guys make when they try to kiss a girl is that they simply chose the wrong moment to do it.

If you are a Pick Up Artist and have some really good skills you know that there is actually no wrong moment because a Pick Up Artist is a creator of moments and you can make it happen every time whenever you want. The point is that you have to know how to do that, how to create the right moment and that’s something most guys have absolutely no clue for how to do it.

The Kissing Formula:

So now, after I’ve showed you some of the mistakes guys make when they try to kiss a girl that usually cause rejection, I want to show you a way of how to kiss a girl without getting rejected and the exact steps you have to take.

I personally, had to go through some really bad experiences and it took me quite a while to figure this stuff out, but now, after some trial and error and experimenting, I started to see how all the pieces fit together till I was able to see the bigger picture… …and then I thought:

Wow, this is really cool. Why don’t you break down so that also others can use it? The result is the “Kissing Formula”. Stick with it and you’ll be able to kiss a girl every time without getting rejected in 99% of all cases. Here it is:

Kino + IOIs + Sexual Tension = Kissing Without Getting Rejected

In the following section I’m going to exactly explain now each part of the kissing formula to you. I’m going to tell you what they mean, and how to actually do them.

So get ready for some really cool stuff, and here we go…

The ground foundation – Confidence And Attraction:

Something that I didn’t include in the Kissing Formula but that’s critical and that should be seen as the GROUND FOUNDATION for being successful when you kiss a girl, is to be confident when you want to kiss a girl and the ability to create attraction inside of her.

I don’t want to talk that much about how to be more confident around women or how to attract women in this newsletter, but I’ll give you some quick advice here anyway: When the moment comes, where you think that it’s time to kiss her, you have to be absolutely determined to do it.

THE WORST THING YOU CAN DO WHEN YOU TRY TO KISS A GIRL IS TO HESITATE.

So in order to be fully determined and confident when you kiss a girl, you have to believe that she wants you to kiss her. You can also imagine how you’re doing it successfully. Most men who get rejected when they try to kiss a girl are scared that she won’t like it and that they will get rejected etc. Just all the things we talked about earlier. If you avoid this kind of negative thinking now, and do the opposite, by just thinking positively, you’re on the right way.

Again, if you want to learn more about how to be confident around women, check out my article “How To Be More Confident Around Women Within Seconds” and if you want to learn more about how to attract women read the article “How To Attract Women – 6 Proven Strategies” at my webiste http://www.TheSecretDatingSystem.com

Step #1 – Doing KINO:

So now let’s move to the kissing formula:

The first part of it is called KINO. No what the hell does that mean? KINO is a well known abbreviation in the seduction community and part of the Pick Up Artist’s jargon. It comes from kinesthetics which means nothing else than touching another person.

As we already pointed out in mistake #2, a problem is that guys don’t establish enough body contact before they try to kiss a girl and therefore usually get rejected because she will feel uncomfortable and the whole thing will be kind of artificial.

So what you do now is create some KINO throughout your whole conversation with her. You’re hugging, you’re touching her on her shoulder, hands, upper back…and after a while she will get used to you touching her and it will feel totally natural to her.

The point is that the progress from meeting another person to kissing each other should be very smoothly, within the flow and without any edges or big jumps because when the moment where you finally want to kiss a girl comes it won’t be a big step for you anymore. It will just feel totally normal and natural.

Step #2 – Looking for IOIs: Earlier we said that many guys try to kiss a girl that’s not even interested in them, whether they know it or not is not important.

They often think that a particular girl or woman is interested in them just because she talks with them or maybe laughs a few times at what they have to say, but in reality she not interested and that’s what many guys only realize once they get rejected. But it really doesn’t have to be that way. Finding out if a woman is interested in you is quite simple…So how do you do it? I’m glad you asked.

Women send out certain key signals when they are interested in a particular guy.

In the seduction community we call those signals IOIs which stands for “Indicator of Interest”. They do that all the time and aren’t even aware of it.

The only problem is that many of these signals are very subtle and if you don’t know exactly what they are you’ll have a hard time to figure out whether she’s REALLY interested in you or not. Now because I want to REALLY help you, I’ve put together a short list of the most common IOIs women send out when they are interested in you:

• She asks you questions like: What’s your name? How old are you? Where do you come from? (Not because it’s a boring conversation and she doesn’t know what to say but because she’s really interested in you and want to get to know you.)
• She asks you if you have a girlfriend.
• She mentions your girlfriend without even knowing if you actually have one.
• She asks you if she can have your phone number.
• She plays with her hair while talking to you.
• She tries to create body contact with you and touches you at your shoulder, arm, upper back or chest. (chest is very direct that she’s interested)
• She reinitiates the conversation when you stop talking.
• She laughs at you jokes even if they were not funny.
• On your way out, she asks you where you are going.
• She leans in, towards you while talking with you.
• She looks you all the time deeply in your eyes while you’re talking or down to your lips.

Before you try to kiss a girl you should have received at least 3 IOIs from her.

Step #3 – Creating Sexual Tension:

In mistake #4 I’ve mentioned that guys chose the wrong moments to kiss a girl. I also mentioned that you don’t have to wait for the right moment, and can actually create it yourself. So how do you do that? It’s easy.

What you have to do is create SEXUAL TENSION, but remember: this is the last step before you kiss a girl. Don’t create sexual tension before you haven’t created any kind of attraction, body contact or noticed at least 3 IOIs. Otherwise you’re very likely to get rejected. So here’s how to create sexual tension:

1. You can’t kiss a girl when you’re 2 feet away from her so make sure you’re getting very close, about 30 cm. Proximity is a key component for creating sexual tension.
2. So now when you’re very close to her you do something that I call the “The Kiss Triangle”. You’re actually doing a triangle with your eyes by starting to look her deeply into her left eye (you can also start with the other one) and you move slowly to her right eye. After that you’re slowly going down do her lips (of course only with your eyes) and then back to the eye where you started. Pretty simple right? But very powerful. The combination of proximity, intensive eye contact and the look down to her lips is already filling the air with chemistry and in that moment both of you are likely to know what’s going on.
3. After you’ve did the kiss triangle you’re now moving your hand up to her forehead and slowly stroke it down to her chin in the form of a “C” where you go from her forehead, over her temple, over her jaw to her chin. This will really fill the air with electricity and after you’ve done that, you look her again in eyes and now you go for the kiss by slowly leaning in towards her.

So the next time you’re out on a date, make sure you stick with the kissing formula and follow its 3 parts of KINO, IOIs and sexual tension. I can only tell you that if you do that you’re chances of getting rejected will go through the floor and your success rate will skyrocket.

If you want to learn more secret strategies that aren’t available anywhere else about how attract women, be more confident around women, approach women without getting rejected, get a woman’s phone number or how to make them steaming hot then simply check the following site: http://www.thesecretdatingsystem.com

Thanks for your time and I wish you the best!

Your Friend,

Darius G.

How To Approach Women Without Getting Rejected

I want to ask you a quick question…

Have you ever been rejected by a woman you approached?

If you’re someone who’s in contact with other people and who sometimes goes out, I’m sure you have, at least one time in your life.

When I look at myself…I can only say that I’ve been rejected A LOT…probably HUNDREDS of times and that the feeling of getting rejected is one of the most PAINFUL and HORRIBLE ones I know, that’s for sure.

Maybe you even remember a time where you got rejected when you wanted to approach a girl and actually did it.

You’re walking up to her and say hi, but she only looks at you like “what the hell do YOU want from me” and turns away.

OUCH.

She might have even said something REALLY BAD to you like that you’re the BIGGEST LOSER she has EVER met or whatever.

Now you’re standing there and literally feeling like a total loser. You feel hurt inside, but she’s making fun of you with her girlfriends and all the other people around you are talking now that you got rejected.

Man, I’m feeling with you here.

I remember exactly how I’ve always thought about only one thing in such a situation and that was:

WHAT’S THE FASTEST WAY TO GET OUT OF HERE?!

But the most interesting question of all is:

WHY DID SHE REJECT ME?

You have just said hi, and she rejects you straightaway. For many men the fact that they will never find out why they got rejected is probably as hard as getting rejected. But I tell you something…

…IT DOESN’T HAVE TO BE THAT WAY!

In this newsletter I’m gonna reveal to you some of the MOST DANGEROUS mistakes guys make when they approach a girl that cause rejection and I’m also going to show you the ULTIMATE STRATEGY for how to approach a girl to ensure you won’t get rejected anymore.

So make sure you’ll keep your eyes open and read that letter to the end. I promise you won’t regret it.

How To Approach A Girl – Mistake #1:

A very important key when you approach a girl is the DIRECTION from which you come.

When guys approach a girl they usually come from the front and walk straight up to her just like a lion that has seen his bag and is now going to get it.

You have to know that with this kind of approach you’re literally FALLING WITH THE DOOR RIGHT INTO THE HOUSE.

It’s a very DIRECT way which ONLY works if you know how attraction works and how to trigger it right from the beginning when you approach a girl.

Otherwise she will feel straitened or taken by surprise and in the worst case kick you out of her house which means reject you THE HARD WAY.

So ONLY approach a girl from the front and walk up straight to her when you know how to do this.

If not so, then I recommend you first ring the bell before you enter the house.

Another bad way to approach a girl which I even think of the MOST DANGEROUS one is to approach her from the backside.

That’s the one where a lot of bad things can happen my friend. I only want to warn you…

I speak from experience.

You walk up to a woman from the backside, tip on her shoulder with your finger and when she turns around you usually get that “WHO’S THAT ASSHOLE” or the more polite version, “WHO THE HELL ARE YOU AND WHAT DO YOU WANT FROM ME” look.

You know that one? I bet you do.

But if you think about it, it’s not all that strange because when somebody tips us on our shoulder we usually expect to see someone we KNOW who wants to say high, a familiar face.

But now as we’re turning around we see a TOTALLY stranger, someone we haven’t seen before and who looks like he wants something from us. We first hear one of the lamest pick up lines ever known by man and then a couple of the same boring questions we have heard 1000 times before.

No, I’m not often here! I wasn’t born here, and no, I don’t like the music the DJ is playing here!

Women have to bear this all the time so it’s absolutely no wonder when they get annoyed sometimes and reject a guy who starts with this whole bunch of crap again.

How To Approach A Girl – Mistake #2:

So as you just have noticed, another big mistake guys make when they approach a girl or woman is using lame pick up lines that don’t work.

They want to be seen as someone funny etc. and throw out a line that might be funny for THEM, but is offensive and repulsive for HER and the LAST thing she would probably do is LAUGH about it.

Here’s a good example:

A guy walks up to hot girl he’d like to date, gives her 10 cents and says: “Here, take those 10 cents, call your mother and tell her that you’re coming home later today.”

Guys CRACK UP and break down when they hear that line because it’s so FUNNY to them, but it really ISN’T for the girl.

So when you approach a girl and want to use a pick up line make sure it’s one that’s funny for both sides.

How To Approach A Girl – Mistake #3:

How do most guys, if they don’t lack of confidence behave when they approach a girl or woman they feel attracted to, especially when they’re drunk?

Right.

They behave in pushy or offensive ways which is highly UNATTRACTIVE to women. There are actually a whole bunch of different variations when it comes to this. Some guys try to touch a girl all the time, others become very sexually, talking and thinking only about one thing, and some act totally over interested and bombard her with questions.

What this communicates is that you don’t have many options, which means that you don’t have a lot of potential dating partners that you could meet and date right now.

Guys who are successful with women and dating aren’t pushy or offensive. They are relaxed and in control of their sex drive. That’s simply because they have sex.

There’s one thing you should always remember:

WOMEN ARE ALWAYS INTERPRETING WHAT YOU SAY OR DO.

So if you act in those ways she will assume that you don’t have a lot of options and that other women aren’t interested in meeting you. And now, she will automatically ask herself WHY she should hang out with you if nor other women don’t do it.

You get it? Good.

So do me a favor and just don’t do these stupid things – being pushy and offensive – anymore in the future from now on.

How To Approach A Girl – Mistake #4:

Many guys fear to approach a girl or woman because they don’t know what to say.

And when they do approach a girl you always here the same old boring things that we all know.

Things like…

• Hi, what’s your name?
• Where do you come from?
• Are you often here?
• What do you do for living?
• Do you have a boyfriend?
• Can I buy you a drink?

Bla, bla, bla…the list goes on.

I call this process “The interview mode” where guys act like a reporter who has his handout with all of this questions right in front of him.

Now when most guys do this they think THEY’RE DOING PRETTY WELL because they’re keeping the conversation going and are getting some REALLY interesting facts about the other person.

IN REALITY, THEY’RE KILLING ATTRACTION AND MESSING UP THEIR DATE.

Here’s some proof:

Let’s say a REALLY attractive young girl at the age of 16 gets approached one time per day which in reality is ridiculously few for a really attractive girl or woman, but for our example, let’s just say she only gets approached one time a day.

Now if you do the math, that are 30 approaches per month, 360 per year, and 3.600 in 10 years.

So when this hot woman has become 26 years old she will have been approached 3.600 times where she had to tell the story from where she comes from, what she does and so on 3.600 times.

Do you think when you’ll be #3.6001 and ask the same boring questions like all the other dudes before you that you’re gonna be interesting to her and be able to spark attraction?

Come on man!

So now that I’ve told you some of the most common mistakes guys make when they approach a girl which usually cause rejection, I want to teach how to approach a girl THE RIGHT WAY without getting rejected.

This method is called “The Ultimate Approaching Strategy”.

It’s divided into a preface and 5 easy steps and if you do the things I’ll tell you inside, you will be able to walk up to EVERY woman you want and start an INTERESTING conversation with her WITHOUT getting rejected ever again, guaranteed.

Sounds good? Let’s go.

The Preface:

Before you approach a girl or woman, make sure you have a SOLID and STRONG Inner Game, in other words, that you are self confident.

Confidence is the GROUND FOUNDATION for everything else. If you’re not confident NOTHING will probably be working for you. You can know more techniques for creating attraction and picking up women than any other guy, but if you’re not confident you will STILL lose.

Make sure you mark this on your forehead.

Furthermore, make also sure that you’re well groomed. You don’t have to look like Brad Pitt as I always like to say, but you have to look well groomed which contains things like clean teeth and a fresh breath, a cool hairstyle without any dandruff (If you don’t know what hairstyle fits you best, simply go to a stylish haircutter. They will counsel you with passion.), clean and cut finger – and toenails, and some stylish clothes (If you don’t really know what stylish clothes is, simply buy a fashion magazine and look what’s hip or go to a fashion store and ask for some advice.)

The very first impression is always made with the eyes and it happens within seconds. It’s one of the MOST crucial things you need to master if you want to be successful when you approach a girl.

“Ultimate Approaching Strategy” – Step #1:

I’ve learned a very profound technique that lowers the risk of getting rejected tremendously when you approach a girl or woman.

It’s called “The Eye Contact Test” and I got it from a guy named Joseph Matthews, who’s one of the leading experts and masters when it comes to approaching women.

We all know that eye contact is important and when you approach a girl you can actually find out if she’s open to meeting you or not.

Not bad, right?

So how do you do it?

I’m glad you asked.

You simply lock your eyes on the girl you’d like to approach which is nothing new since all guys are doing that when they see an attractive woman.

But we’re not done yet.

There’s no doubt that she will look around to scan the area. We all are doing that and sooner or later your eyes will meet each other and when that happens, you’ll be locked in eye contact. Now simply smile to her and when she’s smiling back, you’ll know that she’s open to be approached and get to know you.

It’s a very simple but powerful technique which can also be done while you’re walking.

You’ll be surprised about how good it’s working.

“Ultimate Approaching Strategy” – Step #2:

As I already mentioned before, many guys make the mistake of approaching a girl straight up from the front or from the backside where they’re tipping with their finger on her shoulder.

Here’s how to approach a girl the right way:

When you approach a girl, do it from an angle. You come from the front side, not straight up, but from an angle. It should look like you just pass by. Right in the moment where you’re next to her you casually throw out your opener. (I will explain what that is in just a moment so stay with me here.)

During this process make sure you have at least a faint smile on your face because people are more attracted to other people who smile and are looking friendly. This is what scientists have found out.

“Ultimate Approaching Strategy” – Step #3:

Before you throw out your opener, that is the line you open her, you do something very important which is called setting your “false time constraint”.

Now what do I mean with that?

Easy dude.

When some guys approach a girl they either don’t know what to say or they just can’t talk enough. They’re talking and talking and what they’re doing with that is creating the feeling inside of a woman that they’re going to stay for the rest of the evening.

The woman feels cornered and straitened so she will figure out how to get rid of you, most of the time done with something that is called…

R.E.J.E.C.T.I.O.N

I’m sure you’ve heard about that one.

A false time constraint takes all doubts and the pressure away when you approach a girl. You’ll actually will make her feel much more comfortable when you it.

You simply walk up to her, like I told you and before you start talking, you tell her that you only got one minute because you have to get back to your friends then, or something else.

With that you’ll take away any objections she might have because she knows if YOU SUCK you’ll be gone in just one minute anyhow so it’s no big deal for her.

If you don’t suck which will be the case with a little bit of training on your part she will of course be pleased if you stay longer than that.

“Ultimate Approaching Strategy” – Step #4:

So after you’ve set your false time constraint it’s actually a good idea to say something, isn’t it?

How BRILLIANT. Yes, thank you, I know.

The way you do this is simply by throwing out what is called an opener.

You’ve already heard me mentioning it a few times, so now I’m going into more detail and tell you what it actually is and how to do it.

An opener is just a line or a question you say to start a conversation with a stranger and break the ice. It’s not there to create attraction.

There are different kinds of openers. The two most popular ones are the…

1. Opinion Opener and
2. Direct Opener

At the opinion opener you ask her a question and get her opinion on something. You DON’T ask usual boring questions like all the other dudes but something more interesting for example, “who lies more, men or women?”

This is a well known opener in the seduction community but you can of course come up with your own ones.

I LOVE opinion openers because you can ask women and talk with them about topics you’re really interested in, like for example the dating world.

A direct opener is simply a comment you make. It can be something about the situation, her, like what she’s wearing or anything else.

“Oh my god, did you see the fight outside?” is a good example for a direct opener.

If you want you can also use pick up lines as your opener. There’s nothing wrong with that if they’re good, which means not offensive or sexually aggressive like the one I’ve told you before.

The most important thing is that you don’t practice the interview mode and that you have one good topic ready that you can lead into after you’ve thrown out your opener.

“Ultimate Approaching Strategy” – Step #5:

Another VERY crucial point when you approach a girl and have your first conversation, is your body language.

What many guys do, is, they lean in when they’re talking to her.

DON’T DO THAT!

Your body is in fact talking and communicating AS MUCH if not EVEN MORE than your mouth, that’s why it’s called BODY LANGUAGE.

And what you’re communicating to women when you lean is nothing else than:

“I AM A PUSHY GUY WHO’S INTERESTED IN YOU AND WANTS TO MAKE OUT WITH YOU.”

Yes…there’s also the variant of “WHO WANTS TO MARRY YOU AND HAVE CHILDREN WITH YOU”, but I think you get what I mean.

So instead of leaning in, LEAN BACK a little bit when you talk with her. This will show her that you’re in control of yourself and are not pushy and needy.

If you use the techniques I’ve showed you in this letter and avoid the most common mistake I can say with confidence that you’re success rate with approaching women will EXPLODE and you’re very unlikely to get rejected EVER AGAIN.

If you want to learn more secret strategies that aren’t available anywhere else about how attract women, be more confident around women, approach women without getting rejected, get a woman’s phone number or how to make them steaming hot then simply check the following site: http://www.thesecretdatingsystem.com

Thanks for your time and I wish you the best!

Your Friend,

Darius G.

How To Be More Confident Around Women Within Seconds

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Have you ever screwed up an important situation with a woman?

Be honest with me here.

I want to know…

…have you ever seen a woman you felt attracted to but were afraid of getting rejected and therefore didn’t have the guts to walk up to her and say hi?

…have you ever been scared on a date with a beautiful woman that you run out of topics to talk about and that there would be this embarrassing silence where no one knows what to say?

…have you ever been afraid of making a mistake or doing something wrong while you’re hanging out with a woman that could scare her away and make you lose her?

…have you ever been in a moment where you had the chance to kiss a woman but messed up everything because you were not confident enough to do it?

If you have answered YES to one of these questions I want to let you know that first of all, you’re on the right place if you want to get these things handled and learn how to be more confident around women and secondly, that nearly EVERY man who’s in contact with women has experienced AT LEAST one of them.

To tell you the truth, I used to be a MASTER at doing those mistakes. There was a point in my life where I was HIGHLY insecure around women and didn’t know how to be more confident and whenever I had the option to take action or do nothing I usually decided to do nothing because it was much easier than to beat my fears.

I’ve created this letter to show you how to be more confident around women, but before I show you how to do that let’s clear the term confidence.

Confidence is an EMOTION. In fact, it’s a positive one that makes us feel good.

If you have enough of it you feel like the king of the hill or even the king of the world. You feel like you can do and BE SUCCESSFUL at EVERYTHING and that there’s no mountain that’s too high for you.

You simply believe in yourself, in your abilities and your success.

It’s a pretty DAMN GOOD feeling, right?

But what happens if you lack of confidence?

If you lack of confidence you’re not feeling this powerful energy that is flowing through out your whole body. You feel inhibited, insecure and even scared and once an obstacle or a challenge arrives, you think you won’t be able to DEAL with it.

Most people think that confidence is something that we’re born with and that either you have it or you don’t but that’s NOT TRUE.

Confidence is something that is developed over time and that everyone can have if…

…he knows the SECRET of how to do it.

The secret?

Right.

So what is the secret of how to be more confident?

It’s THE WAY YOU THINK.

Your thoughts are actually responsible for your emotions because THOUGHTS TRIGGER EMOTIONS.

I know that for many people this may sound a little bit strange now because for most, thoughts and feelings are two absolutely DIFFERENT KINDS OF WORLDS, right? Frankly, when I’ve read this for the first time I didn’t want to believe it 100% neither, but when I’ve finally given it a try, I could see that it really works.

Thoughts and feelings are actually two different kinds of worlds but there is a CONNECTION between both of them and if you know how to use that connection you have the power to control or change your feelings whenever you want.

If you think about it…that means that you can also transform your insecurity around women into PURE CONFIDENCE.

And this is exactly what I’m going to show you in this newsletter.

I’m going to show you how to be more confident, especially around women, how to create this powerful emotion within SECONDS, and once you got it how to keep it…FOREVER.

The idea is the following:

If you want to be more confident around women you have to throw out all negative thoughts about women and dating that are in your head and replace them with positive and supportive ones.

You CLEAN your head and put good things inside of it. It’s like with a computer where you delete everything that could be damaged by a virus and then led a new software run over it.

You reprogram it, and this is something that you can also do with your mind.

OK, let’s start with the first method for how to be more confident around women.

“How to be more confident” – Technique #1:

In this technique you’re exactly doing what we’ve talked about just one minute ago. You tell yourself positive beliefs and overwrite your negative ones.

Here are some of the most common negative beliefs men have about women and dating:

• Women are unfriendly and impolite.
• When I approach her she will say something impolite to me and send me away.
• She will be angry when I start talking to her.
• She will immediately think that I’m hitting on her.
• She will reject me.
• She will laugh at me and make fun of me.
• Everybody will see how I get rejected and then talk about me.

I bet you’re familiar with one or two, right?

Now I’d like to tell you some positive beliefs that will replace your negative ones if you repeat them often enough:

• Women are friendly and polite.
• I enjoy my life and have fun.
• Women like me.
• I can approach every women and have success.
• Women even want me to approach them. They will welcome me with a smile and open arms.
• I can have every women I want.
• I like to be around women and fully enjoy it.
• I always know some fun things to do with women.

By the way, if you like to learn more about the topic of how to approach women without getting rejected simply click on the following link:

Approach Women Without Getting Rejected

Positive thoughts that you tell yourself in order to be more confident are also called “AFFIRMATIONS”.

If the above do not work out for you, you can easily create some on your own.

Just think about what you are scared of and create a positive affirmation for it that will KILL your fear and help you to be more confident.

So when you’re for example scared of making the step of kissing a woman where so many men fail because they’re not confident enough, although the situation is right, your affirmation may be:

“She wants that I kiss her” or “I can kiss her.”

Creating affirmations is really easy but there are some rules that you should keep in mind:

1. Always write your affirmations in the present tense 2. and first person, singular. 3. Don’t use any kinds of denials.

(e.g.: I cant; I don’t; I have no…)

You should write them in the present tense, and first person singular because you’re brain should notice that it’s about YOU and that it’s happening NOW. If you’d say “He could be successful with women” instead of “I can be successful with women” there will be a TOTAL DISCONNECT and it won’t work.

Denials are not good because your brain simply leaves them out. So for example, if you say to yourself “I don’t have fear” which contains the denial “don’t”, your brain will LEAVE IT OUT and what will stay is “I have fear” which is of course something that you don’t want to tell yourself because it’s a negative thought. Denials are counterproductive. Leave them out and say instead “I am confident.”

ALWAYS FOCUS ON WHAT YOU WANT, NOT ON WHAT YOU DON’T WANT.

“How to be more confident” – Technique #2:

In this technique you don’t tell yourself any positive thoughts in order to be more confident, but visualize how you’re doing something successfully before you really do it.

It’s the same process with your thoughts. You have some bad images or visions inside of your head like for example getting rejected, that you have to throw out of your mind and replace them with positive ones.

You’re cleaning and reprogramming your mind again.

But this time you’re doing it with pictures and movies instead of words.

Reprogramming your mind with visions consists of two key steps:

1. First you VISUALIZE the scenario exactly how you want it to be.

2. The second part is called “MENTAL REHEARSING”

where you rehears that vision in your mind to

led it grow bigger and stronger and become more

powerful.

So for instance, when you see a beautiful woman in a bar you want to talk to, instead of walking right up to her, take a few seconds and visualize how you’re doing everything correctly in your mind. Then rehearse this vision 2 or 3 times till it’s strong enough to beat your negative pictures and you can confidently walk up to her.

Scientists have found out that before a challenge begins, NEARLY ALL TOP ATHLETES – not matter in which area – VISUALIZE how they’re winning in order to be more confident when the match actually begins.

“How to be more confident” – Technique #3:

Another way of influencing yourself to be more confident around women is a technique called “ANCHORING” which comes from NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) and is all about reprogramming the nerves in your brain.

And this is actually a quite fancy technique.

It goes like this:

Think about 3 moments in your past where you were loaded with pure confidence. Where you felt like the king of the hill as I always like to say.

Focus on that feeling, where you felt so confident. Right in the moment you feel it touch your body with your hand somewhere for example at your other hand your chest…whatever.

The point where you touched your body, let’s say your inner left hand, will be your SECRET CONFIDENCE SWITCH.

Now I’m gonna explain you how this works.

When you think of moments where you felt really confident and you touch your hand for example, you create a connection between that feeling and your hand and whenever you’re in a situation where you’re feeling insecure you only have to touch your secret confidence switch and you will feel the confidence coming up in you.

The more you’ll practice creating your secret confident switch the stronger the feeling will be when you touch your body.

The cool thing is that you can use all of the 3 techniques in this newsletter for how to be more confident, WITHIN SECONDS. For example, let’s say you’re in a bar or club where all of a sudden you see a beautiful women you want to talk to, but only the thought of approaching her makes your emotions go CRAZY, you feel your throat get dry and your heart pounding. In such a situation you can real quickly use one of the techniques to boost your confidence and overcome your fears.

Now that I’ve showed you how to create confidence within seconds I want to add to this how TO KEEP your confidence once you have it because a problem many guys have and that happens all the time is that once they are confident they tend to FALL BACK into their old state and become INSECURE AGAIN.

So how can you keep your confidence once you have it and avoid losing it?

The answer is simple.

OBSERVE YOUR THOUGHTS.

Guys who can’t keep their confidence and fall back into their insecurity do not have their thoughts under control. Their negative thoughts are actually controlling them.

So the key to staying confident is to observe your thoughts and once you notice some negative ones coming up replace them IMMEDIATELY with positive ones.

The point is that you must always have more positive thoughts than negative ones up in your brain.

It will take some time to master this, but trust me, once you did it, NOTHING is going to stop you and destroy your confidence ever again.

If you want to learn more secret strategies that aren’t available anywhere else about how attract women, be more confident around women, approach women without getting rejected, get a woman’s phone number or how to make them steaming hot then simply check the following site: http://www.thesecretdatingsystem.com

Thanks for your time and I wish you the best!

Your Friend,

Darius G.

How To Attract Women – 6 Proven Strategies

Hey dude, let me ask you something:

Have you ever had a girl in your life you really liked, but unfortunately she didn’t feel anything for you?

Or have you ever dated a woman you really liked, but for some reason she was losing more and more interest in you and the only thing you could do is watch till everything is over?

Or maybe you knew a girl you really liked and always had a good time with and when you told her about your real feelings for her she said that in her opinion it would be better if you just stay friends. Perhaps you’re in a relationship and can see how your girlfriend gets more and more distant from you, to the point where you get afraid that she might cheat on you.

Or you’re watching other couples walking around and can see how some complete idiots are together with really beautiful women and you ask yourself how that can be, but just don’t get it. These are things that happen everyday to thousands of men all over the planet because there is one thing they don’t know much about and this is the powerful emotion called ATTRACTION and how to trigger it inside of women.

Attraction is probably the most important thing if you want to be successful with women and dating. In fact, it’s so powerful that you can nearly do EVERYTHING else wrong and still be HIGHLY successful with women if you know how to trigger it and how it works.

In this article I’m going to show you some common mistake guys make when they try to attract women, and I’m going to show you 6 proven ways for how to attract women like a magnet that will help to get the girl you want. Make sure you read it because you don’t want to miss that.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #1:

One of the most powerful ways for how to attract women is to be confident.

CONFIDENCE IS THE MOTHER OF ATTRACTION if you want so and if you don’t know how to be confident NOTHING is probably working for you even if you know more techniques and methods than any other guy. You need a solid foundation. When most guys talk to a woman they feel attracted to they start to get nervous because they are afraid that she might not like them and reject them.

One hint for their nervousness is the movement of their eyes. Instead of looking the woman in her eyes they scan the area around them while they’re talking or look at certain parts of her body (if you know what I mean) that are definitively NOT her eyes.

What I’ve found out is that the eyes of a person are actually the windows into the inner world of that person and when we look into someone’s eyes for a longer period of time we’re actually able to create a very powerful and intimate bond.

So a way to attract women is to look them deeply in the eyes while you’re talking to them. Besides that you will be able to create a powerful bond between the both of you, you will also stand out of the crowd because only a few guys are comfortable with doing it, and you will communicate to her that you’re a confident guy which is again HIGHLY attractive to women.

After you’ve created some attraction with this or the following techniques you can take this idea even to the next level and touch her while you’re talking and looking her in the eyes.

I personally often take her hand after I’ve created some attraction and when she’s flaking out I say that I just wanted to check if she has warm hands (this excuse works of course best in winter). Creating body contact while you’re looking her in the eyes will emphasize the connection you build with her.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #2:

One of the things I’ve figured during the last several years is that WOMEN DON’T LIKE AVERAGE GUYS. Average guys are like average cars for beautiful women. They are everywhere, and nothing special. What they’re looking for is the FERRARI which is rare and hard to get if not impossible if you don’t have a lot of money.

The same happens at a party for example: When a really beautiful woman comes to a party most of the guys are just staying where they are and stare at her with open mouths. They are overwhelmed by her beauty and would be willing to do everything she wants from them and of course she knows that.

Since there are countless of these guys she meets everywhere and all the time wherever she goes they are nothing special to her and so she’s not interested in them. What she’s looking for is THE ONE GUY, the guy who’s above average.

But how do you do that? How do you become an above average guy and what do you have to do? I’m glad you asked. The answer is quite simple:

DON’T BE IMPRESSED BY HER BEAUTY.

Guys who are successful with women and dating have a lot of options and therefore aren’t really impressed when they see a beautiful woman. They know a lot of beautiful women and she’s just another one.

No big deal. Nothing special. Just normal.

Women notice when something like this happens, and what they’re thinking then, is that this guy has a lot of options he’s not like all the other ones who faint when I just look at them and is therefore rare and something special. He might even be hard to get. So if you want to attract women you know what you have to do the next time. Don’t be impressed by their beauty.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #3:

Another way for how to attract women is to simply don’t give them a lot of attention. Beautiful women know how men are working and what they have to do to get what they want from them. They’re used to be surrounded by guys who are overwhelmed by their beauty and willing to fulfil all of their wishes.

But if a beautiful woman meets someone like you now, who’s not overwhelmed by her beauty and don’t gives her a lot of attention she’ll be definitively CONFUSED and will ask herself WHY you are NOT acting like all the other guys. You’re again communicating that you’re not an average guy and she will get more and more interested in you because of the fact that she’s not able to look right through you.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #4:

You can take the concept of confusion even one step further and bring it up to the next level in order to attract women and make them interested in you…

That’s right, I said bring it up the next level and the way you do this is by BEING A CHALLENGE TO THEM. You’re not only giving her nearly no attention and stay totally unimpressed by her beauty, but also bust on her, tease her or even make some fun of her which is the VERY OPPOSITE of what all the other guys do. They would never dare and even think about busting, teasing or making fun of her.

NEVER.

But what you’ll do with that is that you show her that you’re confident and simply don’t care. She’ll be again very confused because very few people have ever done this with her before. She won’t maybe even know if you like her now or not, and will therefore try to win you over which means that you’re not anymore the pursuer but the pursued one.

ATTENTION: If you want to attract women make sure you always do this concept of being a challenge in a playful and funny way. Don’t insult or hurt her if you don’t want to get slapped or have her drink in your face.

Some beautiful women are also sometimes very shy and insecure. I know this sounds crazy but that’s the truth. So if that’s the case you also want to slow down you’re teasing and busting because in such a case it would be counterproductive.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #5:

So remember, when we first said that we feel pulled to things that are limited or a lot of people are competing for. You can use these principles to attract women by showing her that you are preselected, which means, showing her that other women like and want you and that you have a lot of options.

When she will see that there are a lot of other women (high competition) who think that you are the real deal, she will AUTOMATICALLY assume that you’re something special and will be more likely to be attracted to you.

But how do you do that if you’re just starting out and don’t have a lot of other women?

No problem dude.

Just talk with a lot of other women in the club or wherever you are and make sure that she can see it. What I also like to do is to go out with some normal female friends (maybe you have one or two) of mine.

The women you will see at the club for instance won’t know that these girls you’re out with are just normal friends of you and so they will assume that you have a lot of options and are preselected. This method works like a champ and if you want to attract women, a lot of beautiful women, then I highly recommend you take advantage of it.

How To Attract Women – Strategy #6:

A big mistake that a lot of guys make is, that they go out with the aim of picking up women, getting phone numbers, getting laid…

They are OUTCOME DEPENDENT.

This is a bad thing because with setting yourself an outcome, you put yourself under unnecessary pressure. The result will be that you are more likely to get nervous now when you’re talking to women because you don’t want to mess up your chances and fail with reaching your outcome.

What you should do instead is to go out to have fun and good time and be OUTCOME INDEPENDENT where you simply don’t care if you get this one girl or not. This mindset of being outcome independent will TAKE AWAY your insecurities you might have around women and will help you to have a good time and when this happens guess what?

You will automatically attract women and pull them right to you because they will feel the good energy you’re spreading and want to join your company.

If you want to learn more secret strategies that aren’t available anywhere else about how attract women, be more confident around women, approach women without getting rejected, get a woman’s phone number or how to make them steaming hot then simply check the following site: http://www.thesecretdatingsystem.com

Thanks for your time and I wish you the best!

Your Friend,

Darius G.

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How To Avoid Ending Up Just As A Normal Friend

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HOW TO GET THE WOMAN YOU WANT AND DON’T JUST END AS A NORMAL FRIEND…

Hey dude,

This letter is for you, because I know that you’ve experienced this at least one time in your life and…

IT SUCKS!

More than anything else probably.

You know a girl you’re totally attracted to, you get to know her even better, till you realize that you’ve developed really deep and intensive feelings for her…that go beyond just friendship.

You’ve fallen in love with her.

So after thinking about it, you finally decide to walk up to her, and tell her about your true feelings you have for her.

And now comes the one sentence that drives all men crazy, and makes them break down:

“You know [insert your name here ], I really like you, but… let’s just be friends. I think that’s a better idea…”

Bla, bla, bla…

“LET’S JUST BE FRIENDS.”

Ugh!

I have to puke…

Many men don’t know what they should do in such a situation, and of course, most of them do the wrong thing in 98% of all cases if they do something.

They ask her now, why she responded the way she did, and try to CONVINCE her LOGICALLY to change her opinion etc.

They tell her for example, how bad she would hurt them, or how many benefits a relationship has…

Hey dude, let me tell you something.

I’ve tried all of this out, several times in my life, and at the end I was always sitting there LOST AND HURT.

It just doesn’t work.

CONVINCING A WOMAN LOGICALLY TO CHANGE HER FEELINGS FOR YOU DOESN’T WORK.

Write that down…

…on your forehead.

Thank you!

Ok, so what can a guy like you do now, to keep himself away from getting stuck in the friend zone?

There are actually several powerful things you can do, that I’m going to share with you right now:

#1 Create A Strong Emotional Connection:

The most powerful thing of all is probably if you create an EMOTIONAL deep level connection with the woman you want, or the girl you’re already stuck in the friend zone.

But, how do you create an emotional deep level connection with a woman?

What’s that even?

I know, we men are most of the time really with this, aren’t we?

But it’s not that hard.

Instead of talking about technical things, for example, which is what a lot of guys do, talk about emotional things. Tell her emotional stories that happened in you life where she can really feel with you or relate to you.

Or find topics she fascinated by, that make her feel really good and exited.

What could such a topic be?

Mmhh…

Someday, somebody told me that FASHION is something, that some women might be interested…

Big surprise!

It freaks them out, and drives them crazy. Just like guys are totally after football or fast, hot cars.

So talk about this stuff for e.g. but focus on her emotions, figure out what’s exactly the thing in that area that freaks her out and talk about this then.

What you can also do is, talk about her dreams and fantasies. If she’s really beautiful, and dreams of being a super model, than support that vision and talk about it.

Tell her that she can do it, and you can see her already doing this and this…

But be serious here, you don’t want to come across as ironically or as if you’re joking on her.

What this emotional talk will do for you, is that she will associate all her positive feelings that she gets by talking about her most favorite topics with you.

(It’s an NLP anchoring technique, but we’ll talk about this at another time.)

Most guys just don’t go deep enough into the weeds. Do it, and talk about things no one else has ever talked about with her, especially no guy, and you’ll be remembered for ever!

#2 Create KINO (Body contact):

The second thing you have to do is touch her while your talking with her.

You create body contact, also known as KINO in the seduction community.

See with every minute that you’re not touching her, you get physically more and more distant from her, and eventually end up as just one of her other normal friends.

Is that what you want?

No.

So when you talk and hang out with a girl, make sure you always touch her, so that she gets used to it, and that the barrier and your hesitation of touching go away.

You can really go to the extreme. She will get so used to it, that other friends of her will look like “what the hell is going on here?” when they see you.

And if you reached the limit, fine, she will tell you and that’s it.

No big deal.

If you’ve read “The Game” by Neil Strauss, which is one of the best books I’ve ever read, concerning women and dating and the whole seduction community and I highly recommend then you might remember how Style a.k.a. Neil talked about how his kiss problem and hesitation just vanished into thin air by doing more and more KINO.

It’s very powerful. The progress from meeting someone to kissing that person should be very smoothly, and if you skip that part as a whole…guess what?

Right!

F.R.I.E.N.D.Z.O.N.E.

Touch her at her shoulder, give her a hug, when you stagger her by coming from behind, take her hands and warm them with yours if it is winter…

There are so many things you can do to create and increase body contact. Just be creative, I’ll leave the rest up to you.

#3 Start The Friendship Frame by Yourself:

Another thing you can do in order to keep yourself away from ending up in the friend zone is to start the friendship frame by yourself.

What?

Why should you do such a dumb thing?

When, you start with creating a friendship frame you turn around the tables.

Let’s say, it’s the first time you meet each other and after a funny conversation you throw out the line:

“You know what. I think that this is the beginning of a really good friendship.”

(It doesn’t have to be these exact words. You can also use a variation of this. Just make clear that in your opinion, your gonna be some really good friends – not more.)

You turn around the tables because now you’re the one who suggests to be friends. Most guys show right away from the beginning that they want her for more.

But if you pretend to be just friends, she won’t realize what’s going on.

She will ask herself things like:

“What’s wrong with this guy? Why doesn’t he act like all the other jerks and wants something from me?”

Especially if she’s a hot one.

In one of my free articles I talk about the power of confusing women, breaking there predictions and being UNPREDICTABLE.

This my friend, is a total ATTRACTION-BOOSTER.

Because with being unpredictable you become exiting and adventurous.

Secondly, people always want what they can’t get, so she will try to impress you so that you will start to chase her, or at least want more than just being a friend.

And thirdly, it’s a definitive DHV (Demonstration of Higher Value) because now you are the exemption of the rule what a Pick Up Artist, by the way should always be. You’re not acting like all the other guys and therefore are not an AVERAGE GUY.

Women aren’t attracted to average guys. What they want is the one guy, the “above average guy”.

You set up the friendship frame, but anyway do your normal seduction routine as always.

#4 Create SEXUAL Tension:

You see in most cases, both, the girl and the boy know each other for a longer period of time already. That’s how it is most of the time.

And she really likes him. That’s what they even tell you when they say no:

“You know I REALLY LIKE YOU, but let’s just….”

the last part is too ugly to spell it out…

So she really likes you, she feels attracted to you because she’s always having a good time with you and laughs a lot. You even built up trust and comfort, but there’s still something missing…

…and that’s SEXUAL TENSION.

If you’re really stuck in the friend zone, she would never think about kissing you, or having sex with you for example.

You can ask this every woman and everyone will tell you the same thing.

So they don’t even think about that, because there’s not sexual tension. (But that’s something women won’t be able to tell you.)

So how do you create sexual tension?

I’ve already talked about this in one of my free articles…

There are several ways for how to do that:

Way #1: Create Intensive Eye Contact

When I say intensive, I mean that you should look her LONGER than she’s used to and more DEEPLY in her eyes.

Did you know that there are couples out there, who don’t even know what the eye colour of their spouse is?

How dumb and superficial is that?

Don’t just figure out what colour she has (please, I know that you can do it better), but get really close and look at mosaic of her iris. If you do this you will also feel how you create a very intimate bond between the both of you.

You will really feel, how you can get really fast beyond all the superficial hype and buzz and get to know someone really fast, and intensively without saying even anything.

The eyes are the windows into a person’s feelings and inner world.

Very important, very powerful!

So look her longer and more intensively in her eyes than she’s used to.

Way #2: Of how to create sexual tension is proximity.

Get close, dude!

You can’t get sexually if you’re not close to each other. (Except your one of those phone pervert, but we just leave that out right here, ok?)

Way #3: Be a challenge to her:

Most guys always try to be the friendly nice guy, who always agrees and does everything she tells him to do.

Try this instead:

Be a challenge to her, tease her, and make A LITTLE BIT FUN of her. Only a little bit, you don’t want to hurt her, insult her, make her angry or make her feel uncomfortable and insecure around you.

(This happens when guys overdo their Cocky and Funny, teasing, and busting. They think they’re doing pretty well, but in reality, they’re losing the girl. If you don’t know what Cocky and Funny is, I’ll talk about that very soon…)

If you’re a challenge, you show her again, that you’re not an average guy, because almost nobody of the other guys does that.

Ok, that’s it for today. Use these techniques and tools right, and they will help you stay out of the friend zone.

Short summary:

1. Create emotional bond – topics you talk about
2. Create KINO
3. Turn the tables by setting a friendship frame at the beginning
4. Create sexual tension

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Thanks for your time, and I’ll talk to you soon!

Your Friend,

Darius G.

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